8 Things Mom Really Wanted on Mother’s Day
A week after my husband and I were married we were standing in the middle of a crowd of people on Mother’s Day when the speaker asked all of the moms to stand up. Oh great, he just had to say that, didn’t he… . There I sat, awkwardly, surrounded by my husband and all of my family. They all looked at me just waiting for me to stand up and I all I wanted was to sink down in my chair as far as humanly possible. Why? I was a married-first stepmom & we didn’t have kids of our own yet. And while I sure felt like I was a mom, I knew I wasn’t the mom. It was awkward. I never was a fan of Mother’s Day until we finally had babies of our own because now I can actually own it.
On Sunday I saw so many posts pop up on my Facebook newsfeed with all of the cute things that husbands and kids did for their mommas. There was the breakfast in bed, the homemade cards, and the afternoon spent at the park. And while all of these are wonderful, I couldn’t help but think about what moms really want on Mother’s Day. Here is my list of what we really want. Husbands please take notes!
- 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I saw someone post that they got a hotel room for themselves the night before Mother’s Day and all I’ve got to say is that is pure genius! I wish I would have thought of that. Although I did pick up a sleep shift the night before so not only was I away from my kids for 8 hours but I was also getting paid to sleep – even if it was on an uncomfortable mattress. But next year I say a night in a hotel by myself sounds a-freaking-mazing. Love my kids but there is something to bed said for a full nights rest.
- A hot shower. Alone. With no kids sitting on the floor in the bathroom with coloring books or sitting out in the hallway banging on the door demanding Cheerio’s or else they are going to declare war. Am I the only one who’s toddler is constantly demanding “mo Cheerios!”?
- A strong cup of coffee. Or even a gift card for coffee. Just get her the dang coffee.
- A brunch out at your favorite restaurant. A never ending basket of cinnamon rolls sounds pretty heavenly. While it is sweet that the husband or kids wanted to make you breakfast in bed, we all know that mom is going to be the one to do all of those dishes at the end of the night. Why not skip all of that and go out for brunch and leave the mess behind.
- To wear something other than a nursing bra and maternity pants. Heck, to find something in her closet other than maternity clothes. Can I get an amen? Who would have thought that one of the best feelings ever would be to wear real pants. Oh the power that a zipper and button have. It is ridiculous but any postpartum momma definitely understands what I am talking about!
- A massage or even just a haircut and eyebrow wax! Better yet, throw in a bikini wax in there. Because ain’t nobody have time for that. We were all thinking it, I just said it.
- One giant glass of wine and some chocolate. You can’t have one without the other. I mean, I guess you could but that is just cruel.
- Simply to feel appreciated. A text, a card, a phone call – any of the above. Anything to let her know that you are thinking of her and you appreciate her.
Being a mom is hard. Just the other day I was talking to my mom on the phone when my toddler came over and pulled open my shirt. Naturally I thought she was just going to say something like, “mommy boob… baby milk…” or something along those lines. Nope. What does she do? Wipes her nose with my freaking shirt. Awesome. Not only am I wearing spit up from the baby but now I’ve got toddler snot all over my blue tank top.
It is incredibly easy for moms to become so caught up in caring for their little families that they lose sight of who they are as women. We put bathing our kids above showering ourselves and before we know it it’s Friday and we realize that we actually haven’t showered since Monday. We spend our mornings nursing babies and feeding hangry toddlers while our make up just sits in the drawer and collects dust. We hold onto our pre-baby jeans but the only thing we actually wear are our favorite pair of maternity jeans, yoga pants, or leggings. We pair those with our very attractive tank tops that we wear around the house day after day. We don’t even know what it would look like if we needed to get dressed to leave the house and wear something other than stretchy pants and a long tank top. Being a mom is exhausting but it is the best kind of exhausting. But somedays, especially on Mother’s Day, I think it is important to let moms know how much we appreciate them as moms and as women. A little pampering and 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep can go a long, long way.
I hope all of you mommas had a wonderful Mother’s Day!